you feel insecure?
Well, if you do, you're not the only one!
Would it surprise you to know that most people feel insecure
in one way or another? Many of us don't know it, some of us do. But,
you know, God is there for us, and he's on our side.
Do people hide insecurity?
People hide their insecurity in many, many ways. The mind
is full of self-defence mechanisms - it can be very creative indeed.
Insecurity can turn us into someone we really are not.
For instance, someone who is life-and-soul of the party
may well be that extrovert in order to keep an inner hurt from being
discovered. It's a kind of camouflage, and it works like this: "If people
don't see the real me, they cannot hurt the real me. If they upset the
outer me, that's OK. But they won't because I'm the life and soul of
Insecurity as a child?
There may be an
"child" inside our emotional makeup; where part of our personality was
trapped in childhood by a traumatic event - something that caused great
emotional upset. It could be from a general lack of love in the formative
years, which caused a stunting of the normal emotional development of
a whole human being as God intended. Or it could be the trauma of an
accident, or a violence, in which someone they loved and depended on
was badly injured, or left the family, or died. Or it could have been
a trauma to the child in the form of physical, emotional, mental or
sexual abuse. These things can do terrible things to a young mind. Fortunately
the mind of a child is resilient, and creates defence mechanisms to
handle the insecurity caused. However, in many cases, it is as ineffective
as putting a sticking plaster on a broken leg, so it never heals properly,
and the person grows up with an imbalance in their personality.
Insecurity in other people?... or in you?
You probably recognise these things in people around you.
But you may also be aware of these things in yourself. Are you insecure?
How does your insecurity show itself?
But, what can we do about it? Some things look so impossible
that we just learn to live with them. Live with our awkwardness, our
difficulty with other people, or our bad reaction in certain situations.
Insecurity - the root of other problems
It may well be that insecurity itself is the root of it. But
we're afraid to look, afraid to face up to what lies behind it. We know
of the "presenting problem" on the surface; but what is the root
problem, what's at the bottom of it all? Maybe we don't know; maybe
we do, but it's too frightening to look at it, or to talk about it with
someone else. After all, we wouldn't want anyone else to know about
where we hurt, do we?
Let me share something with you: God knows all about
it. He always did. He knows, he understands, he feels your inner
pain. And he wants to do something about it because He loves us.
We have to make the first move
God wants you to bring all your insecurity to him, and
in your heart to give him all your pain, perhaps even from as far back
as your childhood. You need to do this in prayer.
How should I pray? How do I do it?
Praying is important; but if you've never prayed before,
how do you do it?
Well, just find somewhere where you can be by yourself
and peaceful for a little while.
I'm going to tell you something now which is very important.
Jesus loves you. This is not the
boyfriend-girlfriend love - it's much more than that. His love is more
than the greatest love you have ever felt so far, from anybody
else, or for anybody else. His love is forever, it doesn't go
away because he doesn't like you any more. The Bible tells us that
God is Love. And Jesus was the reaching
out of God's love to his people, to all of humanity that ever lived
and ever will live on this earth.
So, close your eyes, and reach out in your mind to Jesus
Christ, the son of the living God. Know that
he loves you with the fullest love of the living God. He cannot help
loving every one of us, because God Is Love. We have the ability to
love each other because he loved us first. He put his love within us.
Perhaps you can visualise, in your mind's eye, Jesus standing
there in front of you, his eyes full of love.
Tel Jesus how you feel
Talk to him in your thoughts, or out loud, it doesn't
matter which. Tell him how you feel. Tell him all about it. I promise
you, he is listening. Talk to him about your hurts, your fears,
your insecurity, you shattered dreams, your successes, your joys. Whatever
comes to you. Ask him to show you what to talk about.
This is praying.
The more you pray, the more you get to know God.
He would say:
"Trust in me.
"I am unfathomable, faithful from
the first to the last. My love for you is so wide, so deep, so all-encompassing
that you cannot imagine. I reach out to you with all my heart. I love
you, my child.
"Whatever you do, however bad you
feel, even if you shun me and turn your back on me, I will always love
you. Even if you have done the most dreadful things, I still love you.
I am the way, the truth and the life. I am the love that you seek. The
love to heal your wounds, to bind up your inner hurts.
"Be encouraged - you are not alone.
I am always with you. I knew you before you were born, when you were
formed in your mother's womb. I know every step of your life, every
minute, every second.
"Turn to me and I will comfort you.
You cannot hide from me like you hide from other people. I see into
your heart, and I understand. I know about your insecurity. Do not worry
that I know this; be reassured, because I love you and want the best
for you. I am here.
"I will not harm you - I came to
set you free, free in your heart, free in your spirit. I yearn to bring
you into my Kingdom, into my peace. Turn to me, let me in, and I will
begin to heal you. There is no outer shell that you can wear that I
cannot love through. Be at peace. Do not be afraid. I love you. I AM."
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